Forgiveness is difficult.
If it were easy Jesus wouldn’t have taught us to forgive seventy times seven (Matthew 18:22). If it were easy there wouldn’t be over one hundred references to forgiveness in the Bible, sixty-four in the New Testament alone. Jesus, in his prayer model, stressed the importance of forgiving by saying we are forgiven in the same manner as we forgive others. The parable of the unforgiving servant drives this home, ending with the cautionary; “My heavenly Father will also do the same to you, if each of you does not forgive his brother from your heart.’ (Matthew 18:35) Even on the cross Jesus personifies this ideal: ”Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” How much more evidence do we need that this is dear to God’s heart?
This all sounds pretty serious to me, if I want forgiveness I need to be forgiving. Period. I didn’t read any ifs, ands, or buts in there. If I expect God to be forgiving of my sins, and I do, then I must forgive others.
So why is forgiving so difficult? Bottom line answer: because we don’t want to. We want to hold onto our anger and our grudges as if they were precious to us. We want to prove we’re right. We feel we are ‘owed’ something by the person who hurt us.
The answer to this is simple; prayer. “Sure, if it were THAT easy I would have done it already!” Well, let me share with you a specific prayer of forgiveness I learned some time ago. It comes from Art Matthias of Wellspring Ministries (http://www.akwellspring.com/).
Here is the prayer:
“Father, I bring you the gift of my pain and I lay it down before your throne. I confess that my feelings have been sinful, but I have not known what to do about them. “
“In the name of Jesus, and as an act of my free will, I purpose and chose to forgive (the person) from my heart for (what they did). In the name of the Lord Jesus, I cancel all (the person’s) debts or obligations to me.”
“In the name of Jesus, I break and cancel Satan’s power over me in this memory, and the resulting pain.”
“In the name of Jesus, I command all the tormentors that have been assigned to me because of my unforgiveness to leave me now.”
“I invite you, Lord Jesus, to come and heal me of this pain and this hurt. Holy Spirit, please tell me your truth in this situation.” (pause here to listen to the Holy Spirit)
“Thank you Father, that because of the work that Jesus did on the cross that all of this is possible. In Jesus’ name, Amen”
It is my hope and my prayer that this prayer will help you as it has me. When earnestly prayed in faith it has always worked to move others indebtedness to me “as far as the east is from the west” (so far has he removed our transgressions from us.)